How Your Self-Talk Shapes Your Personal Style

How Your Self-Talk Shapes Your Personal Style

The Real Reason You’re Questioning if Your Outfit Looks Good

When we think about walking into a room with confidence, we rarely connect it to the language we use with ourselves.

Instead, we just feel that discomfort in the moment—whether it's being in the spotlight or standing in front of a camera—and the negative self-talk creeps in.

What My Photoshoot Taught Me About Self-Talk

I’ve been there. In fact, it’s still very fresh for me after recently having professional photos taken. I was anxious for a full week leading up to it—excited for the outcome, but not exactly looking forward to the process. Will what I’m wearing look good on camera? Should I go with minimal or bold accessories? Am I going to have a good hair day? Yes, my mind went there too.

The Morning Pep Talk

The morning of the shoot, I had to pause and give myself a real pep talk. I reminded myself to focus on what I wanted others to see and feel through my photos—not the perfectionism that was bubbling up inside me. I knew I needed to release that pressure, shift my mindset, and allow myself to simply enjoy the experience.

Why Your Words Matter

What many don’t realize is how powerful our words are—especially the ones you whisper to yourself. They shape how you feel, how you show up, and how you see yourself in that moment.

Think of the rudder of a ship—tiny compared to the vessel, yet it determines the entire direction. Our words work the same way. What we say, especially to ourselves, can either steer us toward confidence or anchor us in self-doubt.

So, why am I talking about this? What do WORDS have to do with personal style?

Honestly—EVERYTHING.

From Self-Doubt to Style Clarity

When I first speak with clients, the conversation often starts with their frustrations: Nothing fits. I can’t find anything I like. I hate shopping. That’s why they’ve come to me—they want help solving their wardrobe challenges. I get it.

But the real transformation begins when we shift the conversation. Through the style assessment, we move past the struggles and start focusing on strengths, values, and the pieces already in their closet that make them feel confident.

That’s the foundation of our work together—building the CONFIDENCE to step into the beautiful, intentional wardrobe you envision.

One of the first questions I’m often asked is, “Where do you shop, Annette?”

Shopping is important—it’s the outer layer, the packaging. But if you truly want to elevate your style confidence, shopping should be the last step in the process, not the first.

First, I help you reconnect with your sense of self. Because without that positive affirmation of who you are and what you’re working toward, you are left feeling dowdy, average, or feel the need to lose 20 pounds before anything will look good.

I want you to begin seeing your beauty from the inside out—your radiance—not just the flaws you think you see on the surface.

Questions to Reflect On

So let me ask you:
✨ What do you love about your body?

Not what you'd change. Not what you're waiting to “fix.”
But what already makes you feel strong, graceful, feminine, or powerful.

✨ What do you want to move away from?

Maybe it’s wearing black by default, impulse buys you never wear, or clothes that no longer feel like you.  Get clear on what no longer serves you—so you can make space for what does.

✨ What do you want to move toward?

Think about how you want to feel when you get dressed each day. Confident? Put-together? Effortlessly chic? Let your style reflect the life you’re creating.

Final Thought

Your WORDS—your self-talk—can be a curse, or they can be your beauty. Choose wisely.

💗Annette

P.S. If you’ve been thinking about elevating how you show up and need some loving help and support with your personal style, I would LOVE to meet you! Schedule a time to learn more: https://www.annettebond.com/contact